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Nobody is perfect.
We each possess certain qualities
that make us a strong individual or a weak one. Here, I am going to talk about
the qualities and habits that can ruin your life.
This is not a food blog by any means
but I’m going to give you this: PIES. These will ruin your life. PIES stand for
procrastination, insecurities, ego, and selfishness.
When you create and bring these,
even just one, into your life, it can greatly affect your work ethic, your
mindset, your personality and the way you deal with people.
Procrastination is a big recipe for disaster. when you procrastinate, you delay or put off doing tasks and get distracted from completing a goal or getting anything done. You become the opposite of a productive person-- a procrastinator.
You will have a lot on your plate at
one point in your life and the best way to get through everything is to take it
day by day. A hundred things cannot be done in one night. You might be able to
pull it off but the result will be sloppy.
Instead, use your time productively.
- Make a list of daily goals.
- Use a planner and set up reminders to keep you on track.
- Set time for certain tasks that need to be done.
Insecurity is a result of
comparison. It’s in our nature to compare our work, looks and quality of life
with other people. We can start feeling inadequate with what we have. When you
are insecure, you victimize yourself in so many situations and rationalize that
you do not get the good things in life because you are not worthy of them. This
is falling prey to your own insecure thoughts and mindset.
According to Dr. Dwayne W. Dyer, in
his book Pulling Your Own Strings, victims
let themselves be dominated, pushed around, because they often feel they are
not smart enough or strong enough to be in charge of their lives.
We can’t remove insecurities
overnight. These are thoughts and outlooks that have been imbedded into us as
flaws and imperfections. Our mind is always “Oh no, flaws are bad.”, “Society shows
that this makes me ugly and unworthy.” or “I need to be perfect.”
But none of us know what is perfect.
We can’t look at one certain person and say yes, that is the perfect face, the
perfect body, the perfect life. This person embodies perfection. There is never
a definite standard of beauty and that’s what’s beautiful about it. We each
have a unique beauty in all of us.
So stop comparing yourself to
others. Take all that energy and time you use stalking influencers and
celebrities on social media and wishing you were someone else and focus it on
improving the person that you really are, flaws and all.
You are good and smart enough. Believe
in yourself. Stay confident and focused.
Ego is the opinion you have about
yourself. Is ego bad? By definition, no.
Ego is simply how we perceive and
think of ourselves. You can think of yourself as the most charming person in
the world while another sees themselves as the life of the party.
However, we can think too much of
ourselves. We become obsessed with and love ourselves so much that we want to
believe we are always right and always the best. This type of thinking can ruin
us by breaking our focus on self-development and on connecting and creating
healthy relationships with others.
We cannot be all that all the time. It’s
so exhausting and toxic. People will not enjoy your company when you always
want to be the center of everything and be better than everyone else.
When we continuously feed our ego,
we build a pedestal for ourselves. We make sure no one destroys this pedestal
and whenever someone seems to succeed us, we bring ourselves to a higher
position. Sometimes, we bring people down just so we stay on top.
When you focus on bettering
yourself, it never means you put other people down. Others are going through
their own journeys in life. In the journey of self-love and development, stay
humble and work hard.
Selfishness will ruin your life when
you are unable to share your love, generosity and friendship with people. They
do say that sharing is caring.
This pandemic we are going through
has shown how selfishness harnesses such negativity. People are buying things
they don’t need or hoarding all the hand sanitizer and packs of toilet paper.
For some reason, we think we are so
entitled to receive that all we do is take. We no longer take into
consideration the feelings and situation of others.
There should be a balance in life.
When you work on yourself, you also work on relationships you have with other
people, intimate or not.
Being selfish is just being lonely.
All you think about is yourself, your happiness, how things affect you, how you
feel and what you want or need. People will grow tired of being with you
because you do not give them respect or consideration. You do not add value to
their life. You become a stress factor or an annoyance to them.
First and foremost, become a better
person for yourself—for your own happiness and sanity. But remember that people
around you are affected by how you act and there will be a time when you will
seek their help and presence in your life.
I hope you enjoyed this blog. What would you add to this list?
